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Annabel Monaghan's avatar

My husband and i have a joke - he says, "ah, who feels sorry for you now?" every time something nice happens to me. Because if i was invited to this party, i'd say it was because they felt sorry for me. A good review - these people just feel sorry for me. This is honestly what's in my head, but now that it's a joke i see it and don't feel it anymore. Which is all to say we should turn all of our crazy into jokes!

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Tara Schuster's avatar

YES, looking at the absurdity really punctures any self-loathing!

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Tara Y's avatar

Big fan of David Epstein’s Range! I didn’t know he was on Substack. I’ll have to check him out. Thank you!

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Tara Schuster's avatar

Oh YAY! I'm so glad! I was recently intro'd to his work and am loving it!

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mxdn's avatar

Well, you do look incredible. Smart purchase! And great haircut too and thank you for the Epstein rec—looks perfect for me.

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Tara Schuster's avatar

Thank you!!! I appreciate you and I'm so glad you're into the Epstein rec! I'm loving his substack

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Michael Van Den Branden's avatar

I believe I have seen about five different photos of you and in each one I feel I am seeing a different person, it must be the Hollywood lifestyle. I can't say one is better than another, just a different roll that you are playing. The Big Apple dress fits the location and the meeting. Whatever part you find yourself playing, casting would think you are perfect. You got it all together girl! - Mike VDB / UP Magazine -Editor & Publisher

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Tara Schuster's avatar

I do look different in diff photos - NO clue why? One of life's great mysteries.

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Emma Giles's avatar

My best friend named my inner imposter/critic (she’s called Constance btw) and now we both call her out on her bullshit when she rears her annoying head!

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David Poznansky's avatar

I try and remember, when catching myself

self-comparing, that it’s the ego driving, not my authentic self. It’s not 100% foolproof but helps & furthermore nobody bats a thousand!

Often think of a Conan O’Brien quote in situations like this: “You have lots of instruments playing, and we’ve got a little triangle going ding-ding-ding! If we do it for a long time, people will eventually hear it…if it’s worth hearing.”

There’s a time for everything!

Hope the travels have been well & enjoyed this piece.

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Erin Carlson's avatar

Your dress is fire!! My feeling about Imposter Syndrome is that everyone has it, even those we don't expect. Even the NYT bestsellers. They prolly have moments when they compare themselves to others, like, "Well, HE has a Pulitzer Prize." Or, "He was on the list for THREE YEARS. And my book was on it for three weeks!" I have my moments, too, but then I realize that we're all in this together and I'm not the only one.

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