I really needed this ! So glad Substack suggest your in my feed 🫶🏻🩷 I have friends and family members and sometimes parents trying to limit me trying to put me into a box I recently had to take 2 very big decisions in my life and they would always say how the decision are so wrong and impact in my life in the wrong way , whenever I am in doubt I start making pros and cons list , I am open to all different opinions but that's it , it took quite a hard time to learn to choose own instinct but now I listen to the stuff and think and compare what they are saying are those are relevant to me ? Coz everyone have different priorities and then I imply after thinking through, also try to maintain distance from such people as much as possible and not always possible to ignore everyone but TRUST YOUR INSTINCT nobody knows you better than yourself chances are you will rise and shine and even if you fail you will learn the greater lesson which will be so fricking helpful for you
I'm so glad you're here, Leyla! I love what you said about being open to different opinions, but listening to yourself and trusting your instinct. And you're right - even if you go a different direction later on, you'll have learned great lessons along the way. 💛
This really makes me think of how important it is to surround myself with hype people. I read this post and then journaled. As I wrote, I felt grateful to realize that I don’t have people in my life who doubt my potential. I have a hype squad that believes in my goals and possibilities, sometimes even more than myself. I want to surround myself with cheerleaders, who push me to bigger goals and cheer for me whether I achieve them or not. I set my intention for today to believe in possibility, for others and myself, to be a hype person and to set audacious goals. It renewed my confidence in a big goal that I have attempted 2 times, but missed the mark on… AND been grateful from how much I learned from missing the mark. I heard recently, you never lose, you either win or you learn. And so when possibility falls short, that’s where I want to be and what I want to remind others of. Thanks for this moving piece, T$!
Yes, yes yes!! You have to know your team. I spoke about this in the Lilies chapter "Hype Men, Road Warriors, and Those You Must Avoid." Approve of yourself first, just as you are, and if you need support from others, trust the people who are in your corner.
Way back in 2016, my then boyfriend (now ex-fiancé) said something spectacularly insecure when I announced that I was going to further my career by attending grad school. He said: what will you need me for then? Cue big eye roll. He was trying to be funny and cute, but it was neither funny nor cute. Ultimately he was right: I did not need him!
“When a person tells you what’s not possible for *you*, they are projecting their own limiting beliefs about what’s not possible for *them*.”
This is a reminder I need written across the skies and embedded in my soul. The things you talk about in this post make me reflect on this past year of living with my parents. Being criticized for not “working hard enough”, making choices they disagree with and being told and treated like I’m “ruining my life” while in pursuit of everything I’ve ever wanted. And of course when I told them I felt unsupported, they argued that “this IS support. I can’t be mad at the TRUTH” and then we proceeded to barely talk for the next 3 months until I moved in with my boyfriend. Their voices are SO loud in my head, but at the end of the day, I know what I want and why. And I have to trust myself enough to go after those things no matter what (valuable) people say. Because if you AND Hailey can make your dreams come true, I can atleast try. 💛
Yes, you absolutely can Dreya! If you're pursuing your dream and following your gut, that's all that matters. Use doubt as fuel, and I can't wait to see where you end up!
This type of pop culture content is great! Love how you translated it to our very human experiences.
Thank you, Danna!
I really needed this ! So glad Substack suggest your in my feed 🫶🏻🩷 I have friends and family members and sometimes parents trying to limit me trying to put me into a box I recently had to take 2 very big decisions in my life and they would always say how the decision are so wrong and impact in my life in the wrong way , whenever I am in doubt I start making pros and cons list , I am open to all different opinions but that's it , it took quite a hard time to learn to choose own instinct but now I listen to the stuff and think and compare what they are saying are those are relevant to me ? Coz everyone have different priorities and then I imply after thinking through, also try to maintain distance from such people as much as possible and not always possible to ignore everyone but TRUST YOUR INSTINCT nobody knows you better than yourself chances are you will rise and shine and even if you fail you will learn the greater lesson which will be so fricking helpful for you
I'm so glad you're here, Leyla! I love what you said about being open to different opinions, but listening to yourself and trusting your instinct. And you're right - even if you go a different direction later on, you'll have learned great lessons along the way. 💛
This really makes me think of how important it is to surround myself with hype people. I read this post and then journaled. As I wrote, I felt grateful to realize that I don’t have people in my life who doubt my potential. I have a hype squad that believes in my goals and possibilities, sometimes even more than myself. I want to surround myself with cheerleaders, who push me to bigger goals and cheer for me whether I achieve them or not. I set my intention for today to believe in possibility, for others and myself, to be a hype person and to set audacious goals. It renewed my confidence in a big goal that I have attempted 2 times, but missed the mark on… AND been grateful from how much I learned from missing the mark. I heard recently, you never lose, you either win or you learn. And so when possibility falls short, that’s where I want to be and what I want to remind others of. Thanks for this moving piece, T$!
Yes, yes yes!! You have to know your team. I spoke about this in the Lilies chapter "Hype Men, Road Warriors, and Those You Must Avoid." Approve of yourself first, just as you are, and if you need support from others, trust the people who are in your corner.
Why are some men such fucking insecure babies when they are told how great they are ALL THE TIME?!?!?
My ex-husband told me I could never get a tattoo because I wouldn’t be able to stay in the pain. I now have 11.
See? Look how strong you are! Send a photo of your tattoos if you can! ❤️
Way back in 2016, my then boyfriend (now ex-fiancé) said something spectacularly insecure when I announced that I was going to further my career by attending grad school. He said: what will you need me for then? Cue big eye roll. He was trying to be funny and cute, but it was neither funny nor cute. Ultimately he was right: I did not need him!
BIG eye roll, Brittany. You didn't need him and I'm so happy you're on to better things (and people). ❤️
“When a person tells you what’s not possible for *you*, they are projecting their own limiting beliefs about what’s not possible for *them*.”
This is a reminder I need written across the skies and embedded in my soul. The things you talk about in this post make me reflect on this past year of living with my parents. Being criticized for not “working hard enough”, making choices they disagree with and being told and treated like I’m “ruining my life” while in pursuit of everything I’ve ever wanted. And of course when I told them I felt unsupported, they argued that “this IS support. I can’t be mad at the TRUTH” and then we proceeded to barely talk for the next 3 months until I moved in with my boyfriend. Their voices are SO loud in my head, but at the end of the day, I know what I want and why. And I have to trust myself enough to go after those things no matter what (valuable) people say. Because if you AND Hailey can make your dreams come true, I can atleast try. 💛
Yes, you absolutely can Dreya! If you're pursuing your dream and following your gut, that's all that matters. Use doubt as fuel, and I can't wait to see where you end up!
You have no idea how much I needed to read this post today!!! Thanks for sharing❤️
Thanks for reading, Anjala! ❤️