Hello friends!
In the main newsletter I went off (in a good way) about my new fav book on dating, Lily Womble’s Thank You, More Please: A Feminist Guide to Breaking Dumb Dating Rules and Finding Love. It’s the best dating book I’ve read in a while because it’s both practical and also makes you re-examine what you want. Instead of worrying about if you are too much, Lily encourages us to go after our desire and instead ask, “Are they enough for me?” 🤯
While it’s SO important to know what you want, it’s equally important to know what you give.
One of the things I here most often from readers is “It’s SO hard to make friends as an adult - how do you do it?!” Or, I’m asked, “How do I make sure I have friends who will show up for me?” And my answers are always the same: 1) Have you actually tried to make friends as an adult? Or have you just thought a lot about it, decided it was too hard, and then thrown your hands up in the air and given up? Because, in my experience, it really isn’t as hard as you’re making it out to be! But it’s IMPOSSIBLE if you don’t put in the effort! #SorryNotSorry and 2) The best way to have a friend who shows up is to be a friend who shows up.
So this week, I thought we could take a look in the mirror and reflect on how we are showing up in our relationships.
Journal prompts to examine how you are show up in relationships:
Monday: Dating
Would you date/marry/be in a romantic relationship with you?
What’s special and shiny about you in romantic relationships?
What’s less shiny and more a work in progress?
Describe your ideal romantic partner.
Any traits you want to steal from them?
Whether or not you are ACTUALLY dating (maybe you are married or taking a time out from romance), please answer.
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